On a Path...

My dear, poor neglected blog...I am sorry to have abandoned you lately! There is lots swirling and spinning in my head and while I've had many an idea to blog, it's just been too much and too intense to spit out onto virtual paper. A bit of my thoughts include:

• The value I provide to those in my life...heavy thought, but it's that classic "Who am I? What am I doing here?" question. I know that I give so much of myself (sometimes, too much) to others, but at what value to them and at what cost to me? Over the last year, I've been trying to eliminate those friends who used more than they gave back for a REALLY long time. It's a hard emotional road for me to travel right now...
• D's job is taking its toll on so many parts of our life right now. First of all, it's taken a chunk out of his confidence. One of the things I fell in love with is D's kick-butt, no care confidence, but for some reason, this job is chipping away at it. I've come to expect for one week of the month he's tied up...early into work and late nights working at home to deal with month end close. However, it's become a more regular thing as he tries to work out issues and get work done. We're making some decisions and plans so that D can get his CPA (at the company expense) and take the next step in his career into a better environment.
• D and I have started to move forward with our goal of buying a home. We drove around last weekend and found one we love and is in our range. We are in the initial stages of figuring out where we are and where we need to be.
• Summer is going to be so busy...July is already shaping up to be a busy month for us. July also starts our "rollback" at work. As a result of the current budget situation, we are taking a salary rollback and a 5 calendar day rollback. For us 12-monthers, this means every Friday off in July (with the exception of the 31st). So, anyone with Fridays off, let me know...maybe we can do lunch or something!
• July is also my 20th (OMG) high school reunion! I've been hitting the gym and prepping for this. I'm really excited to see everyone and catch up. I was initially nervous about it, but thanks to Facebook and catching up with my friends whom I'd lost touch with, it's become something I'm looking forward to.

All in all, lots has been happening...I hope life is well for everyone else!

Conversations with the Hubs!

As I've said before, D and I both work in the same area and have taken to carpooling 3-4 times a week. I love this time together because we can talk about our days at work and what the rest of our time holds. During the carpool time, we listen to something called "War of the Roses". Basically, this is an opportunity for couples to find out who the significant other would send roses to and confront cheating. It is sometimes painful to hear because the recipient is not the one it should be. However, some of these bring out some good conversations for D and I.

This week, there was a married couple on...the wife always lets her husband handle their finances. For some reason, she logged on to their account and saw that her husband had several charges for an escort service. When they called to offer him free roses, his wife was not the recipient. Once confronted, he proceeded to share that he and his "boys" go to strip clubs and hire escorts. He had no problem with this behavior.

This opened a really good discussion between D and I about boundaries of acceptable behavior. He, like I, was incensed that this man saw nothing wrong with this behavior. It then spurred an off shoot topic about sharing with what happens during guy time. It is my opinion and view that I would rather know if the boys end up at a strip club (which never happens with the exception of bachelor parties) or some other place up front from D rather that hearing it later. Otherwise, it seems like shady things are happening that need to be hidden.

The bottom line of this whole post is that these conversations are what keep us interested and talking. We've never had a problem talking, but it made me feel good that something as mindless as this radio bit could inspire such provocative conversation.